THEME
How to Make Friends with the Darkby Kathleen Glasgow

The Foster Care System and Child Welfare

The Foster Care System and Child Welfare

What This Theme Explores

The novel probes what happens when a child’s private catastrophe is absorbed by a public system, asking whether state care can protect without erasing personhood. Through Tiger Tolliver, it exposes how bureaucracy collides with grief, reshaping identity into a case number and grief into procedure. The story interrogates the morality of “safety” achieved through suspicion and control, and the precarious luck that determines whether a child lands in cruelty, compassion, or something in between. It also questions the primacy of blood ties over bonds of care, and how institutional pathways can blur into the juvenile justice system.


How It Develops

The theme takes hold the instant the state supersedes Tiger’s life with her mother, turning a daughter into a ward. At the hospital, a social worker’s clinical announcement interrupts raw mourning, signaling that rules—not human closeness—now govern what happens next. Even the loving friendship and support offered by Cake’s family cannot overcome policy; kinship and community are pushed aside by process.

The novel then layers contrasting placements to reveal the system’s breadth and contradictions. In her first “emergency” home, Georgia’s locked cupboards, paper plates, and punitive schedules make safety indistinguishable from surveillance. A later placement with LaLa Briggs expands the view: warmth is possible, but it exists alongside profound trauma carried by the kids themselves. There, the stories of Thaddeus Roach, Sarah, and Leonard expose the wounds that precede state intervention and the instability that often follows, including the abrupt removals that remind children they have little control over where they live—or with whom.

As the plot narrows toward a “permanent” solution, the system pivots to blood. The discovery of Tiger’s imprisoned father and her half-sister, Shayna Lee Franklin, emphasizes how policy prioritizes biological ties, even when those relatives are strangers or unprepared. A brush with juvenile detention after the Jellymobile crash underscores a chilling adjacency between foster care and carceral control. The narrative closes with Shayna navigating red tape to claim guardianship—a step out of formal custody, but not out of the system’s long shadow.


Key Examples

  • The Initial Shock: Within hours of her mother’s death, Tiger is informed—calmly, officially—that she is a ward and will enter “emergency foster” care. The procedural language reframes a human loss as a bureaucratic event, establishing how grief will be mediated by forms, policies, and strangers. That the news arrives in a hospital underscores how care settings can also be spaces of dispossession.

  • Dehumanization and Control: The state car’s backseat makes Tiger feel like a suspect, not a child in crisis. Georgia’s home intensifies that message: padlocked cabinets, disposable dishware “until trust is earned,” and an arbitrary early bedtime reduce kids to potential threats who must be contained. Safety becomes indistinguishable from suspicion, teaching compliance rather than healing.

  • The Trauma of Other Foster Children: At LaLa’s, Tiger learns her pain is part of a larger chorus. Thaddeus’s broken back, Sarah’s abandonment and sidewalk survival, and Leonard’s removal as an infant reveal the profound neglect and abuse that funnel children into care. Their stories show how the system often treats symptoms—placement, supervision—without addressing the deep wounds that make genuine safety and stability so hard to achieve.

  • Instability and Powerlessness: Leonard’s sudden removal, executed without warning, demonstrates how children are moved like files rather than individuals with attachments. The moment normalizes randomness, undercutting trust and making every connection feel provisional.

    “They just…come like that?”
    “Language,” LaLa says, sitting down on the couch and stroking Sarah’s hair. “It is what it is. Kids are moved around, sometimes with no rhyme or reason.”
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  • From Care to Custody: After the joyride and crash, Tiger is sent to the Ignacio Ortiz Girls’ Rehabilitation Center, where the apparatus of “help” tilts toward punishment. The ease with which a foster kid’s crisis becomes a disciplinary problem shows how thin the line is between welfare and the justice system—and how easily children can be shuffled across it.


Character Connections

As protagonist and point-of-view, Tiger embodies how the system redefines a person. Her name, history, and grief are translated into a file; her movements and meals are dictated by rules that ignore the rhythms of mourning. Across placements, she learns to read the system’s codes to reclaim fragments of autonomy, while also discovering that safety and kindness depend as much on the people inside the system as on its policies.

Social workers like Karen personify the machine’s contradictions: they can be competent and even kind, but their empathy is bounded by policy and crushing caseloads. Karen’s refrain—she doesn’t make the rules, she follows them—captures the moral outsourcing that allows institutions to soothe individual conscience while still enacting harm.

Foster caregivers illustrate the system’s lottery. Georgia’s home channels fear into control, projecting danger onto children and mistaking rule-bound order for care. LaLa offers genuine warmth within an inherently temporary arrangement, revealing how love can coexist with instability. Teddy’s structured group home leans therapeutic, suggesting the system can heal when resources and philosophy align—but that such alignment is rare.

The children themselves—Thaddeus, Sarah, and Leonard—challenge the narrative of “rescued” kids. They carry histories of violence, abandonment, and addiction-origin trauma that do not vanish at intake. Their resilience is remarkable, but the novel refuses to romanticize it: the state’s revolving doors, sudden removals, and carceral edges continually test the fragile communities they form with one another.


Symbolic Elements

The State of Arizona seal on Karen’s car marks Tiger as claimed by an institution. It turns transport into a ritual of reclassification: from daughter to ward, from person to property of the state.

Locked cabinets represent how the system’s baseline posture is suspicion. By restricting access to food—a universal comfort—the home enacts a small daily script that says children are untrustworthy, and that survival will require permission rather than nurture.

The pink suitcase compresses a life into what can be carried and moved at a moment’s notice. Its vulnerability—others rummaging through it—echoes the loss of privacy and control children experience with every unplanned transfer.

Paperwork and files reduce complexity to boxes and codes, making a child’s grief legible only as tasks and timelines. The accumulation of documents stands in for care, suggesting progress even when human needs go unmet.


Contemporary Relevance

The book mirrors real tensions in contemporary child welfare: chronic underfunding, social worker burnout, a shortage of stable placements, and a high bar for kinship care that can exclude community support. It captures how the opioid crisis and other systemic inequities drive more children into overtaxed systems that default to surveillance over healing. The proximity between foster care and juvenile justice remains a pressing concern, with foster youth disproportionately criminalized for behaviors rooted in trauma. By centering a single child’s journey through policies, placements, and paperwork, the novel insists that behind every case number is a person whose safety requires not just custody, but continuity, compassion, and repair.


Essential Quote

“You’ll have to come with me, Grace. I’m sorry, but since you don’t have another relative to care for you while all this is sorted out, you’ll be placed in an emergency foster.”
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This moment crystallizes the system’s logic: apology softens—but does not alter—the imposition of policy over personhood. The phrase “emergency foster” reframes a child’s loss as a bureaucratic category, and the formal address (“Grace”) underscores how the state recognizes Tiger through procedure, not relationship. From here, every step of her journey will negotiate this tension between human need and institutional rule.